Woman Reveals Manager’s Gaslighting Response to Her Request for Paid Leave; Some call it ‘Power Trip’

Many expressed exhaustion at the toxic corporate environment, with one person saying: “I’m so over it.”

After a manager denied an employee’s request for paid time off, he lost it and made inappropriate comments. The user @unoreverse706 published the video and it has gone viral. The caption clarifies that the manager responded angrily and began “gaslighting” the employee after merely stating that he should have been given paid time off as part of his employment benefits.

The video shows a screenshot of a conversation between the manager and the employee. There is a background voice that sounds like the manager. As if we are experiencing it, the TikToker tells the scenario as follows: “Imagine your managers reject your request for leave and then make you doubt your abilities. This is what actually happened,” they write. In the recorded clip, the supervisor tells the employee, “The way you are talking about this PTO situation is inappropriate and petty.”

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Image source: unoreverse706 | TikTok

Their conversation continues with the supervisor explaining why they responded the way they did: “The way you talk about this and bring it up is not the best approach. Sometimes the answer will be ‘no’ and you have to accept it. I understand that is frustrating, but this time it’s just a ‘no’.” The supervisor then suggests how they wish the employee had responded to the denial of their paid leave: “I wish you had said something like, ‘I understand and respect my job. This request is a family emergency.’ That would have been a better way to handle it.”

The supervisor then mentions that the way the employee responded to the denial of his PTO request may be the reason the request is denied again: “Your response made it difficult to reconsider.” ‘There were some assumptions in your email and it was not appropriate to address two managers in this way. So it’s hard for me to advocate for you when it seems like you’re not building a good relationship with us.”

They continue: “There needs to be more respect in the future. Your behavior was inappropriate, and I wouldn’t speak to Jordan and Mariam that way even if I felt like it. It’s disappointing because I’ve been flexible, understanding, and kind to you.” She told the employee: “I want to make it very clear that just because I am kind and understanding does not mean I am weak. If someone behaves inappropriately, I have to be strong about it and it cannot happen again.”

Image source: unoreverse706 |  TikTok
Image source: unoreverse706 | TikTok

Some viewers of the video disagreed with the idea of ​​requesting time off, seeing it more as a courtesy to inform management of their absence. One TikToker commented: “I’m not requesting time off work. I’m just letting them know when I won’t be working.” Many expressed exhaustion at the toxic corporate environment, with one person saying: “I’m so over it.”

Image source: unoreverse706 |  TikTok
Image source: unoreverse706 | TikTok

Another person, who claimed to work in human resources, said: “HR here. It’s none of her business what your PTO is for. I don’t see any problem with what you said at all. Some managers are on such a power trip. I swear.”

Many others shared their concerns about the employee being stuck in a potentially toxic workplace because they felt they did not have to justify their use of paid leave or worry about their supervisor’s approval. “No need to explain PTO,” someone commented. Another sympathized, saying, “I wish I could quit her job for her.”

Several people criticized the manager’s condescending tone, with one person calling it “terrible” and wondering if she had been fired. One user suggested the problem lies in the gap between managers and employees in corporate jobs, highlighting a misunderstanding of priorities: “These managers and HR think your whole life revolves around a job.”

Image source: unoreverse706 |  TikTok
Image source: unoreverse706 | TikTok

Others pointed out the irony of the manager monitoring the employee’s tone on the PTO: “So she controls the tone on you on the PTO?” “They love to control our tone when we stand up for ourselves,” another commented.

Have you ever faced problems at work because you felt like your managers didn’t like how you spoke or reacted when they denied you certain job privileges? For more videos like this on PTO and compensation, follow @unoreverse706 here on TikTok.